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Neal will advise you before your meeting as to what forms may have helpful information for you or may need to be completed for your meeting.

For many people the idea of being a party in a mediation can bring up concerns and questions. When we seek out professional support in a negotiation it can mean that the stakes are high for us, the issues are often complex, and relationships may be under strain.

The following Frequently Asked Questions may help give you a sense of what to expect and reassure you that this is a process in which your voice, your needs, and your goals will be respected and supported.

What should I expect when I call State and Main Mediation?

  1. When you call Neal he will begin by asking questions. In part he’ll be wanting to assess if mediation is the appropriate process for your situation, and if it is, he will then want to explore how he can best assist you in your negotiation with the other party or parties.

  2. Neal’s goal is to afford parties the best possible outcome to their negotiation and to do this he may ask permission to ask some questions that seem personal. For instance he may ask you about communication styles, past challenges, and personal goals.

  3. Neal will also be asking you what questions you have. The more you feel comfortable to ask questions and express concerns throughout the mediation process the better the process will work for you. Neal is available to answer questions or discuss concerns before you begin mediation, between sessions, and after the mediation process is complete.

What does a mediation session look like?

  1. When you arrive Neal will ask all the parties to sign a form called an Agreement to Mediate. Among the most important aspects of this form is the agreement that for the mediator mediation is a confidential process. The Vermont legislature has passed a law called the Uniform Mediation Act that protects the confidentiality of this process.

  2. When the mediation session begins parties can often start out together. Neal will usually ask parties to talk about what brought them there and what they would like to leave with. At times during the mediation session Neal may meet separately with parties, either at the parties request or when Neal sees that it might be helpful to the negotiation.

What is Neal’s role as a mediator?

  1. Neal thinks of his job as a negotiation coach. This includes ensuring a comfortable space for parties to talk, ask questions and, where appropriate, to document agreements. While it is his role to run the meeting and facilitate the negotiation it is the parties who make decisions about what they want to receive and offer in the final agreement.

  2. A great deal of what Neal will be doing is asking questions that will help parties identify what is most important to them, what they want out of the negotiation, and how they might achieve these goals. At times Neal may also ask to bring ideas to the table. These ideas are aimed at exploring creative ways to meet the stated needs of the parties and are not intended as suggestions for how parties should resolve their negotiation. He is always working to ensure that the mediation process is offering people the best opportunity possible for their situation to be resolved in a way that works for everyone.

Where will the mediation take place?

  1. The meetings typically take place at the “Corner of State and Main” at State and Main Mediation’s offices located at 94 Main Street, 2nd floor, in Montpelier, Vermont. Neal also has access to conference rooms throughout the state for times when it would work best for a mediation to be held in another location. The comfort of each of the participants, along with practical considerations such as access to records, are primary considerations in choosing a meeting place.

What paperwork do I need?

  1. Neal will advise you on whatever paperwork is needed — in some situations, he may suggest you download a form from the list on the right in order to bring the completed form with you, to save time.

  2. A comprehensive listing of legal forms for the Vermont Judiciary’s All Family Division can also be found here:


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